Sex is a word that arouses a miscellany of thoughts and emotions. In recent times, men’s manifest misogyny has grown more explicit. And, men’s trivialization of women is painstakingly palpable today. I consider myself a deferential and discriminating individual, and I have an unwavering affinity for women. But, my empathy for women only exists for those whom I feel are deserving. We all have choices in life, and I’ll elaborate on that later. My biggest pet peeve is stupidity. I believe every person who is mentally capable of sustaining a state of sanity possesses the ability to access a sufficient level of moral culpability. Owning personal accountability is intrinsic to a high quality of life. I dispute the commonly preconceived notion that all women who experience sexual abuse, assault, or misconduct are “innocent” victims. Granted, men’s general behavior and attitudes toward women can be described as appreciably infelicitous. However, a victim is plainly a person who encounters trauma, and that never means they didn’t furnish the accommodations that provided their offender with the opportunity to victimize them. Being a victim doesn’t automatically make a person blameless in the situation! Personally, it’s difficult for me to have sympathy for people who make rash, reckless, and reprehensible conscious decisions. I believe life is a lot easier when things can be placed into context without decoration. That means life can be significantly less difficult if the decisions a person makes are based on plain, clear, and evident understandings of facts. Additionally, it’s always good practice to relinquish aspirations for necessities. It’s tough to become a victim if you don’t sacrifice values for valuables.
When I think of sexual intercourse, I envision two or more people stimulating each other’s erogenous zones for pleasure until said people are culminated in ecstasy and elation. Being a full-blown atheist, I renounce the idea of chastity, and I acknowledge all sexualities, including sexual fluidity. Sex is not some sacred act of sanctity only to be conducted between a man and a woman after they’ve conjoined in holy matrimony! It’s more like something people do when they’re horny, to be frank. Sex has two fundamental functions – recreation and reproduction. If people aren’t attempting to conceive a child while having sex, then they’re straightforwardly fornicating for leisure and gratification. Of course, people also indulge in lovemaking to express their deep affection for each other, but intercourse is all relative. Pedophilia is monstrous, repugnant, and indefensible. Unprotected sex with untested partners is disgusting and inexcusable. And, forcible unconsented sex is grotesque and detestable. But… everything else is fair game in my opinion. If sex is legal, safe, and consensual, there are only a few scenarios where harm can be done. I abominate promiscuity and licentiousness, but I don’t see nothing wrong with a little isolated debauchery. Sex is fun and it feels good, and those are things that even the simplest of simpletons can understand. I’ve experienced sexual urges with such intensity, I believe they would clinically qualify as periods of temporary insanity. I’m certain I’m not the only person with strong sexual cravings, and those cravings have simple triggers (e.g., seeing curvaceous, voluptuous bodies). Women have full knowledge of what men’s sexual triggers are, it’s the reason they wear scantily clad and otherwise tight-fitting or revealing clothing. But, sometimes the trigger is simply seeing a woman, even if she’s fully-clothed, and just understanding that she has a vagina. This is something I don’t think women completely apprehend – men are simple creatures, and sex is an uncomplicated activity. You don’t have to be pretty, you don’t have to have curves, you don’t even have to smell good for men to desire to have sex with you. Sexual cravings are instinctual, they exist beyond the sub-conscience, and the jones for sex is educed by a basic appreciation for the satisfaction that can be achieved by reveling in copulation.
Here’s an analogy – a young man living in a big city gets his first check after working hard for two weeks at his first job. He doesn’t have a bank account, so he goes to the nearest check cashing establishment to get his check cashed. He’s so excited to hold a big wad of cash that he decides to walk home, through the city, while flashing the cash and taking selfies. He gets robbed! Would you feel sorry for him? He should have known better, right? This guy created the conditions for an assailant to swiftly and effortlessly take his money, he’s not an “innocent” victim, he facilitated his own robbery. An innocent person is someone who’s exempt from blame or guilt by having a lack of knowledge of the corruption, malevolence, and turpitude in the world. Unfortunately, we don’t live in a world where people are allotted the privilege to make stupid decisions without suffering the consequences. There are hardly any innocent people in this world! The woman sleeping in her bed while a guy breaks into her house through her bedroom window, the woman walking down the street in a full-length wool coat and a pantsuit that gets snatched and thrown in the back of a van, the six-year-old baby left at home with her dad for the weekend – these are the faultless, unsuspecting victims. The 16-year-old girl that lies to her parents in a ploy to attend an unsupervised gathering with clear intentions to get drunk with boys, the frisky and flirtatious clubgoer that willingly visits a private setting with a man she met mere moments before accompanying him, the desperate woman that invites her online dating app match over to her house after just one in-person date – these are the culpable, facilitating victims. Those are only diminutive exemplars of how women are victimized. Still, a substantial number of similar and identical occurrences could be avoided if women took greater precautions. Namely, staying away from unfamiliar people, steering clear of parties where alcohol will be consumed, fighting shy of traveling in public alone, keeping away from suspicious people who’ve made them uncomfortable in the past, and equipping themselves with physical defense techniques and/or a portable weapon of some sort. Common sense is the foremost survival tool known to man, regrettably common sense isn’t too common.
There are foundational disparities between mistakes and bad decisions. A mistake is a blunder, which is typically caused by an unforeseen error in judgement. A bad decision is a conscious inaccurate, inappropriate choice, which naturally has foreseeable adverse consequences. Sadly, people confuse bad decisions with mistakes quite often. But, understanding this is another thing that will help you evade victimization. Accidentally locking keys in a car is an example of a mistake. Intentionally leaving a running car unattended is an example of a bad decision. People frequently forget or neglect the fact that they aren’t in control! We can only command ourselves, everyone else is subject to dictate their own actions. A recurrent bad decision that most victims make is abandoning argumentation in forming discernments. There’s a process to formulating conclusions and devising assessments that is essential to making virtuous, advantageous decisions. That process purely involves using logic and reasoning to support concocting rational decisions. Again, common sense will be the premier attribute to your survival and prosperity in life. The easiest decisions are many times the hardest to accept. But, that mainly becomes an issue when someone is either refusing to accept facts, or when they’re attempting to substitute a desire for a necessity. This is yet another clear-cut key to life – at no time should a person ever authorize or effectuate the forfeiture of morality, standards, values, and good sense to rouse or embolden the product of abandoning oneself in objects of desire or flights of fancy. You are solely liable for your own security. If you understand that predators exist, it only makes sense to take precautions to avoid becoming prey. If you’re going to get fucked, make sure you’re a beneficiary, not a casualty.